If a fixed mindset dominates you, then:
1. Accept your mindset. Remind yourself that now is an excellent opportunity for growth, rather than deny yourself totally and think you are a failure.
2. Always believe that it is possible to change our mindset. According to neuroscience research, nerves are malleable. The brain can be reshaped according to the passage of time, forming new neural pathways. Therefore, our mindset can also be changed.
If you want to cultivate your child’s growth mindset, then:
1. Accept their current mindset. Observe it, a guide based on observation or maintain the current growth mindset.
2. Create a growth mindset environment for children.
In daily conversations, you can ask your child, “What have you learnt today?” “Have you worked hard today?” “What did you learn from your mistakes or failures today?” When the child says, “I can’t make it,” you can guide him, “If I keep practising, I can do it.”
When your child has already made some achievements, you should praise their efforts, the methods he uses, his concentration, persistence and progress instead of praising his intelligence and talent. Scientific praise can enhance children’s inner motivation and resilience.
When your child fails, as a parent, please don’t feel anxious. Please help children realise that they are only a temporary failure in a particular area, not a permanent failure in all areas. Help children distinguish between temporary and permanent, partial and complete, to form a valid cognition. Help children to accept failure and consider it as a learning opportunity.